Pick the symptom you’re seeing. Work through the checks before changing your setup.
A focused way to get unstuck
What happens when you try?
Choose your platform and symptom. Review one check at a time, then save useful evidence for your host.
1. Where do you publish?
2. What is not working?
Your investigation
My profile can’t be found
Start with the exact identity your platform advertises.
Check that the blog or author profile you are testing matches the handle you share. Include your ActivityPub plugin version and Site Health findings in your notes.
Some services require approval. WordPress ActivityPub accepts follows automatically, so a pending request there points to an incomplete server exchange.
For WordPress ActivityPub, check whether the follower appears in WordPress; there is no manual approval step. For another service, check whether its profile requires approval.
Confirm the destination is the blog or author profile you intended to follow.
For WordPress, review the ActivityPub plugin’s FAQ and Site Health results. Ask your host to investigate failed scheduled jobs or blocked requests.
Record both profile handles and the time you tried. Share them with the relevant administrator if the request remains pending.